Dreams Never End

The optimistic pessimist

In the Middle

 

It will be a busy week.

I am a disciplinarian,  a bouncer, a problem solver, a nurse, a counselor, a mediator, a peacemaker, a shoulder to cry on, a mom; I am — a middle school Supervisory Paraprofessional! And every week is busy!

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This position found me. If someone had told me six years ago, I would be working in middle school, I would have unequivocally said “no way”.   My daughters had recently just made it out and we were all happy to have moved beyond those days.

My own middle school experience, actually called junior high back then, was fraught with broken hearts, insensitive friends, awkward body changes, drama and anxieties about my parent’s divorce.

Six years ago, I was working with preschoolers, before being bumped out of my position. I needed to take a position to keep my seniority within my school district. When the middle school supervisor spot opened, I accepted, but with much trepidation. Little did I know, I would be drawn to, and strangely addicted to, the microcosm of middle school.

I have witnessed students go from an immature, quiet, bookish six grader, to an outgoing, boisterous, disrespectful, blue-haired seven grader, to a self-assured, high-school-ready, mature eighth grader!  I swear it is like watching a science experiment. A real metamorphosis. Amazing!

There are things that are difficult. It is hard to see students be unkind to one another, it is difficult to see them make bad choices,  and six hours a day is not enough to change some of the challenges they face at home. There are many factors I have no control over .

But I love my job!  There is never a dull moment and the time goes by quickly.   I enjoy getting to know the students and interacting with them.  Remembering little details, how did the track meet go, how was the dance competition, did the presentation go alright, is your grandma out of the hospital? So many ways to get to know them and let them know I care.  I am lucky, I get to know my students and build a relationship with them for three years.

Some days I spend a lot of time disciplining, other days I can enjoy their joie de vivre.  I tell my students, ‘I am here to help you figure things out and to help you make good choices’. And at the end of the day, I hope that I can make a difference.

Be well!  JustLorelei67

 

 

 

 

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For The Kindness of Strangers

Today’s blogging challenge was suppose to be about my favorite vacation.  But I alas, while Skyping my daughter, who is studying abroad in Buenos Aires, Argentina, I decided I needed to write about some of her adventure instead!

She has been abroad for two weeks getting used to Buenos Aires and her roommate. This past weekend she took a 12 hour bus ride to a lovely place called Mendoza.  Although she speaks Spanish pretty well, she had a bit of trouble when there was an issue with her travel arrangements and she ended up separated from her travel companions.  But for the kindness of strangers, first in the form of an elderly woman who asked if she was okay. And later a guy who spoke English fluently and gave her some advice on where to avoid and what to see while in Mendoza. They both told her that she should be entitled to get some of her bus money back because of the mistake and helped her at the station with filing a claim.

Eventually she met back up with her travel mates.  They enjoyed touring some vineyards, and hiking in the Andes Mountains.  The scenery is beautiful there and there’s beauty in the people as well.

Having your offspring so far away is off-putting to say the least.  With a language barrier,unfamiliar countryside and some botched plans, this could have been a recipe for disaster. But knowing that there are good, caring people all across this big world of ours, is encouraging. A bit of my confidence in mankind has been restored.

 Mendoza, Argentina

Boy, don’t you wish you were here?  Unless you are of course!

Cheers!  JustLorelei67

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What Am I Afraid Of?

Today is the sixth day of my 30 day blogging challenge.  I wondered all week what I might write about for today’s topic.  Suddenly it became crystal clear as the day arrived.

My daughter is a junior in college and chose to study abroad this semester in Buenos Aires, Argentina.  As exciting as that is for her well, as her mom, it is a bit daunting having her 7,000 miles away for home!  She has been gone for about two weeks and I have been trying to get used to the idea.  The pictures she has sent are beautiful and she is having a grand time.

A couple of days ago she informed me she was traveling by bus to Mendoza, Argentina to do some sightseeing and wine tasting.  There were ten students who planned to go together on the bus, but somehow my daughter ended up on a different bus, at a different time, then everyone else.  A twelve hour bus ride in an unfamiliar country, alone?  An adventure?  Yes, no doubt.  But a restful, sleep inducing night for a mom?  Not so much.

It wasn’t until last evening that she told me she was on the bus all alone and hoped to meet her friends, once she got there.  It definitely sparked anxiety in me and I truly felt afraid and slept very little over the night wondering if she arrived. Thankfully she has some excellent Spanish skills, so I knew she had that on her side.

So often I have felt afraid for my children.  You are afraid for their safety at a young age so you buy things to baby proof your home.  You are afraid whether or not they are making their developmental milestones on time.  You are afraid when they go off to school whether or not they will make the grade.  You are afraid whether or not they will be accepted by their peers and make friends.  You are afraid about those “bad” decisions they might make in order to learn a life lesson. A life lesson that you would prefer they learn by you offering your advice.  You are afraid when they spread their wings and fly away.  These are fears that come from living.  When you have lived long enough, you understand a little more about the calamities that could befall you in life. Being afraid for your child, I suppose, is just part of parenting.

Today, I was afraid for my daughters safety, as she traversed a new country alone on a 12 hour bus ride. As the day and then evening dragged on I decided to look at some images of Mendoza. I will include some for your viewing pleasure.  It is an incredible looking place. She is so fortunate to have such an opportunity.  After about 15 silent hours, I got one quick Snap Chat, letting me know she had arrived and was well, my fear lessened. It didn’t go away but it lessened.  It will be alright.  It will be an experience she will never forget.  I am not so afraid for now.

Mendoza, Argentina what a beautiful place!

Cheers,  JustLorelei67

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What is Your Favorite Quote?

Life Lesson

 

 

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My mother taught me early on that this was the most important lesson in life to follow.  I have tried to follow it in my life and also taught my children “The Golden Rule”.

What are your favorite quotes or sayings?

Cheers! JustLorelei67

 

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Do We Share Any of These Fun Facts?

Day two of the blogging challenge and I barely have time to write, but I want to make sure to get this out tonight!

20 Fun Facts

  1. I am 5’2″ (shawty)
  2. Breast cancer survivor for 1 1/2 years
  3. One of my favorite actors is Audrey Hepburn and I simple adore the movie Breakfast At Tiffany’s.
  4. I dressed up like Dorothy, from The Wizard of Oz five times for Halloween
  5. The youngest of four, three girls, one boy.  If you are the baby in the family, you rock of course!
  6. I have been a non-smoker for 25 years.
  7. In middle school and high school I played the flute.
  8. One time while I was in NYC on business I tried on some haute couture on Fashion Avenue in Manhattan.
  9. In the past I completed an online writing course studying writing for children’s literature.
  10. I secretly want to paint a fabulous picture sometime.
  11. My college year found me at Lowthian College for Fashion Merchandising (Loni Anderson was an alum).
  12. Once I drove in a demolition derby. I had a light blue cougar on which I painted Laurel and Hardy! 🙂 No powder puff racing for this girl!
  13. At the age of 20, I participated in the Ms. Minnesota pageant (refer to fact #1, what was I thinking)
  14. I have an annoying habit of trying to finish other people’s sentences for them.
  15. Analytical to the core, there is nothing I like more than to ponder the heck out of everything.
  16. My mom and I talk on the phone every day!  I love that woman!
  17. I love cats and have two of them, Friday and Chester.  They will no doubt be featured in here sometime.
  18. I am in the midst of tidying my life and have a copy of the book, the life-changing magic of tidying up by Marie Kondo.  I will definitely be including some entries about my pursuit of tidying using the KonMari Method.
  19. My mental health checker is running and working out!  It gives me balance and prevents me from blowing a gasket!
  20. Happily, I would pack my bags today, if someone handed me a ticket to travel the globe.

These are a few facts about myself. Leave me a fun fact about you!

Cheers! JustLorelei67

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One of my fur pals, Friday a.k.a. Frankie!

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